An animal however lives by loyalty. Perhaps, there is an entitlement issue with people that own chihuahuas? Ive actually stopped sleeping in the same bed because Fido hogs up so much of the bed that I cant ever get comfortable, so Im now sleeping in the 2nd bedroom while my boyfriend and the dog sleep together! I know he would probably have a fit. I dont understand why she even has him if she doesnt want to do anything with him. You will NEVER come first. For myself, as a child my family had dogs, cats, birds, fish, and even a turtle. I read nearly all of these comments, and I can totally relate to the frustration, because I too live with a dog that has a MYRIAD of biological/anxiety issues (and also sheds, drools, etc). Oops, I forgot! HOW IN THE HELL IS THIS WORTH IT??? The comment left by Jane I can relate to the most. They go berserk at anyone that comes near the house but im not alloud to interveen to shut them up, my daughter calls me a c##t and my wife says im a bastard but not to my face. :\ just getting to much with her sometimes its like I cant trust her at all when shes alone. People who think animals love them more and do not hurt them, as my partner says, need some help. The dog follows him everywhere, does not stay when he is told and when I get frustrated with the dog my partner gets mad at me. Im a huge dog lover. I cant trust the dog around our, and I cant trust my wife to do the right thing for her family. He complains about the sounds it makes (eg when chewing a bone) or when he hears us speaking to it. And I would have. Im losing my mind. Not to mention, dont compare them to children like a boy and a girl analogy. These are reasons dogs arent allowed on furniture, especially the bed where you lay your head. Professional training has to happen and if you dont have the money for it dont consider getting a pet with considering the likely hood youll find a significant other one day who might not like pets or want that responsibility even if he or she can tolerate them. >90% of rabies vaccinations are effective, and, a rabid animal would have to have bit your pet. Yes I support your dream she says but down deep, I think not. I am not affiliated with them, but its where I went for classes, and I they were so invaluable because they teach about the animals psychology as well as break down the training in small, easy steps. I still miss her. There were so many other examples, but I believe this gives you a good idea of the hell I was living. since I left my partner my dog is so much more relaxed and only now I realise the reason why his own dog was an absolute nervous wreck, he said it was due to her being an ill treated rescue dog but actually now I believe she was warning me of something very dangerous considering what I know now about that man. I started dating a girl and she had one bulldog. We got the first dog 7 years ago. These are both 70lb monsters mind you! Am i in the wrong? Because these people work at doggy daycare are specialist in correcting odd behaviors in canines. The shelters are full of them. My boyfriend and I recently moved in together and with that said, I acquired his seven year old Jack Russell female. So since we have a doggy door that was built in with our house when we bought it we decided to train her to go outside. I was raised around dogs, cats, birds, turtles, and fish. I would have to draw the line at having dogs in the bed with me. Run while you can 9 months dont seem like much in the grand scheme of things. Im worried how that will affect relationship. The hamster is in my room. You get to go on dog park dates, have a third couch-cuddling companion, and a semi-legitimate excuse for . He left his dog at his old house while we were still doing updates to list it (meanwhile he keeps telling me hes finding the dog a new home). Our dogs sleep on the couch, despite repeated promises, before buying a new couch, that they wouldnt. Meg- Omg! Sorry, but theres no way I would ever let a dog come between me and my wife, especially one that weighs all of 5 lbs on a good day. Im tired of being restricted on where we can go because of her dog. Why? If your husband/boyfriend needs to get rid of the dog by considering the damage to material items in the home, for example, carpet, you can come up with an alternative to the Floor coverings, especially when you are moving to a new house and husband refuse to take the dog to a new house right away. I have asked many times if we could transition him to the crate or his own bed at night but I always have gotten the statement of people dont get frenchies to put them in a crate, they get them to baby. Even babies need some boundaries and rules! me and my partner both had dogs before we got together , he had 5 me 2 . Hes started getting depressed because the dogs are more important than him, so I dont love him, after 32 years of marriage. I cannot even give my girlfriend hugs as it will bark loudly as I am embracing her. But as the dog began to live with us, I began to feel pushed aside. I just begged for her to live and promised that even if she was permanently disabled , I would care for her kindly as long as she lived.For another 3-4 days she was still retarded. I got married and moved in with my husband awhile ago and we adopted a dog shortly after. We had the exact same problem except I had two dogs when I met my boyfriend. The dog is extremely destructive, and it chews almost everything in the house. I hate my husbands cat and I wish hed get rid of it. If your dog likes someone, they are usually good. We recently moved in together and he never had her properly trained so we are working on house training even though shes almost 3 and shouldve already done this as a puppy. He leaved in the house with him before we got married and then moved the dog to the garage, shortly after. They think that were overreacting because we dont like fur on our clothes. We get to the room where we meet the dog. When he does try he acts sad the whole time like Im mean and hes done a mean thing to her. We have more information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html. Its just something that requires compromise and the one I was with wasnt willing to do that and in the end, if shes not willing to compromise there then shes not willing to compromise at life as a real couple. (chihuahuas) those dogs are little demons that got sent to earth. Animals are extremely smart when compared to their loving owners. So, we gonna look into what you can do when your husband/boyfriend wants to get rid of or rehome your dog. At this point, I feel like her dog dictates our relationship. Overtime I thought I started liking and loving the pet and that it was growing on me. What do I do??? She was 8 weeks old and super tiny and cute. The science sites I have viewed said that it is in the cats dna to be able to survive outdoors even after living inside for many years. The problem is that people who love dogs can not fathom why there are people who dont like them. He has to have some way to release his energy. If you managed to do that, good for you and the dog! He expected my cats locked up so his dog could take over my home. My lab was a terrible puppy he chewed up everything in sight. And my dog is the only one that can get into trouble. Break up. You could tell she loved him a lot. When Your Partner Hates Your Dog: Addressing Disputes Over Pets, Contributed by Zawn Villines, GoodTherapy.org Correspondent. They also fart constantly and I dont need to smell dog fart while Im eating either! We came into the marriage my spouse knowing that I do not like animals. Its my philosophy that if you cant spend at least five minutes a day with your pet then its time you dont have one! (Another reason they want to get rid of the dog they rescued from shelter.). i cant seem to find any (or very little) help for the person who does not own the pet. When we started the relationship, it was big problems with his doga chihuahua. Why would anyone want to be with someone like that, pets or no pets? The last big fight we had that almost ended our marriage was me telling her she didnt have to take the dog with her everywhere, and needed to get the dog used to being at home by herself so whenever we are both working outside of the home, the dog is not going through separation anxiety. Weve had her for 9 yrs since she was 6 mo old. I made myself very clear that I would not care for her dog in any manner and that if she wanted to keep it she needed to care for it. His mouth was literally on my sons face. Help. We were the owners, the dogs did what we wanted no ifs ands or buts about it. He agreed. I sleep on the sofa. Life is about work and staying busy so I really feel Ive never had the time to get a dog or take time to care for one. Ive given up so much for my wife so she could have this dog and I love her and she acknowledges it, but she doesnt seem to understand how much this has hurt me. Socialization: Has your dog appropriately socialized? The dog is 10 years old roughly and does not listen at all. As humans we are supposed to have some capacity of having emotional responses to animals that are completely different to those that we have of people! The dog might end up dead if it is given away the death rate at shelters is often shockingly high. Thank you for being so real. He will break out of whatever you try and put him in then raise hell on the whole house. What was the result Im in the same boat my gf has a French bull dog and I cant stand him its driven us apart the only way I see a light at the end of the tunnel is if he goes But u seem the same so wanted to see how ur situation panned out. Doesnt see our kids. In fact, thats how we ended up getting together. (He made the comment she would be happier there.) It can cause frustration for your husband, resulting in attempting to rehome the dog. I am miserable bc I am not sure if I am allergic to him, or its just my plain old allergies that I had before. Im honestly so angry, what is even more frustrating is he sees no problem with this at all, Im starting to think I will never change his opinion and he will never compromise. He is low key and causes no trouble in the relationship. Should he hit the puppy? I used to love dogs, never again. He says Im the sick one being jealous of dog. We now have an 11 month old and I am afraid he will be the next victim. Litter boxes are so useful when training tiny puppies, as they dont know how to use bathrooms. We were supposed to go on a vacation when I came back. When A Dog Arrives. Not to sound morbid but when the dog passes things will be easier and just dont get another. Fast forward to the past 3 months. Also dogs are so unique and versatile in all ways I dont think some people deserve them. Hire a dog walker: Hiring a dog walker to lessen his workload is a good idea. Practice Management Software for Therapists, Rules and Ethics of Online Therapy for Therapists, How to Send Appointment Reminders that Work, https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html. I need advice pls! Puzzle toys. im still in love with my ex and the puppy but im more depressed than ever. We moved into a house at the beginning of last year and he brought his old dog with him. While her parents dont mind watching her dog, especially since he keeps their dog company, they dont like having him for long periods of time because hes just as needy as their dog. My husband just seems to want me to do the same for him but without giving me anything in return, even a little bit of honesty about how he feels about things that matter to me. I dont know what to do,but am worried we might break up over a pet, which I dont want. what a pain. Each member has a priority level on this pack. He asked me to just become okay with fur. Help please! 2. They are addicted to me. Suddenly he didnt want the dog sleeping with us. If you dont agree then thats why youre single. (2012, January 11). The problem isnt your dog its how you treat it. Lucy I feel for you. I was running to emergency vets every 2 weeks. I actually love our dogs. This gives me comfort in knowing I made the proper decision. My story is similar to all of yours in which your SO is in love with their pet. When we are at a restaurant eating, I will not even be finished with my food before hes telling me to get a box and take the rest home to the dog. My son is almost 4, he can hardly enjoy the dog because the dog is probably 10 years old and hasnt had a lot of interaction with children. Fast forward to 6 months after living together. We still get married but live apart i ask?..his response was yeah i guess so but that really sux! It wont change believe me. Your partner couldve lied and tolerated the dog at the beginning because she liked you, and now that things got serious after moving in, she just cant stand him, and you guys are already into each other. If my husband would meet me halfway and at least hold the baby long enough for me to take the dog out then he wouldnt have the occasional accident now. Im trying to figure out what to do. Best to put him in a bed in another room. He would fight me on even the simplest things, like attempting to train his dog not to jump all over people when they come in the house. That makes me wonder that this might not be the right guy for me. Absolutely not. I dealt with someone similar in that way. We got in a huge fight and finally made a break through. If the dog is unmannerly and untrained, that is what dog trainers are for. They hate your dog. He used to sleep with both the dog and cat in bed before we lived together. He only gets along with certain dogs, so i am scared to bring him to me and my sisters condo to meet her dog. If I hadnt told him I wouldnt marry him if the big yellow female lab was allowed to sleep in our bed, she would have. It shows she not only has any idea how pets work, but what is really helpful for someone who is depressed. ! I said no! He yelled at me when I was tired and my feet where swollen because I didnt buy the dog food when she still had some left. Second her dogs neediness and constant begging for attention like a 3 year old child, like hell literally cry until she picks him up! He never ever even pets them! Hey Im in the same situation but my dog lives with me. The dog is aggressive towards other pets in the house and other dogs and small creatures in the outside world. Its called triangulation, Sounds like your partner is a narcissist, please join a narcissist support group on Facebook and check for yourself. Dogs take a LOT of time and effort, more than most people realize. I hate when the dog gets up because hair just flys off of her. Why? Im Italian, I react! Youve blown it with me. By continuing to live there you are becoming part of the problem. I am going thru the same thing as many of you. Okay this has cause so many arguments with my boyfriend and I and the kids Now his dog has come in heat and had to bring her in we went away for the weekend and the windows were tore up my curtains large piles of dog poo and pee everywhere and he yells and says I guess UR dog had no part in any of it!!! Since then we have communicated about what it is that makes him upset1. However, My boyfriend sets ZERO boundaries for his dog. I could not reconcile my image of him with such a barbaric act. Do dogs stick to mating with one partner, and one partner only till death do them part? From here, I knew that my husband should be the one to choose her, because I love all Boxers. Hes had this dog for six years prior to me, so shes been with him for a long time. I cant stay in the kitchen (where they stay) because they bother me. You may have rescued a dog if it was in immediate, imminent danger, which is unlikely in my experience (this is an overused term by dog fanatics to show fake altruism). Basically, neither of our loved ones have the ability to set up boundaries for their dogs. Youre better off without him and dont deserve that. And all I ever hear is the mom talking to the cat or yelling the cats name and it drives me insane because the cat is so misbehaved and treated like a god. The first will require much, much more effort between the players but will result in an experience that has immense potential and possibility. I tell him it hurts my feelings when he says things like that about my dog, wishing her dead all the time, but he says what about MY feelings, how I hate the dog, that I do not care that he hates my dog and he feels he has to live with this animal he hates. You and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a discussion about the compromises you will both make. I dont have children and they have filled that void in my life. Its not that I dont like animals, but I have no desire of them to be in my house and definitely not in my bed. Of course, no problem. it was a very ill mannered badly behaved dog and I was determined to train her. Wow. Recently we found out the friends he left his dog with werent taking good care of the dog. A disagreement about pets doesnt have to spell the end of your relationship, but it may require that each of you make some accommodations. And tell him to rehome the dog if it continues to happen. I have said I do not want the dog in bed but it goes ignored. Finger crossed for ya! He doesnt do that when Im around, so it feels like hes sneaking. I also have allergies so Ive always had the rule that no pets in bed and no dogs on any furniture. BF got mad when he first saw itwhat is that? REALLY. My boyfriend is constantly telling him to go lay down and go play and Beau just always cowers and walks away with his tail between his legs. but the human seemed to thrive on her thug style behavior. We tried for one night to keep Fido out of the bedroom, but he whined all night and damaged the door frame by clawing at it. Although, my pets were always part of my family, loved and cared for, but never to the point they usurped a human member of my family. So looks like theres lots of people in my position,. He sleep at his own house. Ive been around a few months and he has learned a lot from me training him but she puts in no effort. 12. Why do you want to violate someone elses free will? worse the way he thinks or trys to lie that his behavior wasnt that bad, or shes just a dog and will get over it. As for your other issue, this is something that will require a serious heart-to-heart with your boyfriend. To be honest, we cannot complete the obedience train on a specific day because it is a consistent and ongoing process where you can teach the dog new tricks and commands every day. I could no longer stand the way my husband brought down her spirit. I hope I dont meet another one! Even though she knows to go outside shell go upstairs and pee or poop in the kids rooms or our bathroom. You and them, plus the animals. IT poops and pees all over the house. Well that lasts for about a minute as well. Jennifer: A muzzle doesnt help either, because my wife hates the stigma attached to dogs with a muzzle on, and she wants people to know what a loveable creature that piece of s*** is. They are smaller dogs and use his house as a toilet. Hang in there. Just like you, I wouldnt ask anything outlandish either. She had one dog she rescued. All of that goes because we dont want to live with a shit factory? It was double what the house I sold cost. I find myself not wanting to cone home. and when I mention it to him, the comments are always, what did they do? Watch a half hour of TV commercials and youll find a pill that will fix all your physical and emotional problems, and do it fast and cheap. Im so glad to hear that. Use this site to investigate unknown phone numbers that raises red flags. And dog lovers cant do that. When I get home from work, it literally feels like I am being pummeled in all directions because the dogs are jumping on me, barking, practically bouncing off the walls with crazed excitement. I have a labra-doodle and have always had an inside dog. 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